And my photo above is in total reverence to the beloved butternut squash…oh, how you have gotten us through many days…
Anyhow, I’ve been saving the best for last, and wanted to talk about the profound healing that our daughter has done. And I decided to call this post “Healing Our Children” because I am part of a Facebook group of families doing GAPS…and I don’t think there are too many people out there doing this who would report less-than-stellar results in their own children.
A little background on my sweet girl…
She was a C-section baby, which I think really set the stage for a lot of things because she did not get the same “squeezing” that comes with natural childbirth. She also was not exposed to by own internal flora because of the C-section, which probably didn’t matter because I’m pretty sure I didn’t have anything good to give her at that point anyhow. She was breastfed almost exclusively for about the first year (even though I worked, I was lucky to have been able to pump in my office). While breastfeeding is one of the greatest bonding experiences ever, I’m not sure I helped her health much. My own diet was hideous at that point – I loved/craved and ate ridiculous amounts of anything sugary (because of my own health issues) and pretty much shunned most things healthy. But hey, I took vitamins, so wasn’t that good for something?????
She started having alot of problems with skin issues at the age of 2 months – give or take. Severe eczema – although both of her siblings were also affected right around the same time (I do have plenty of thoughts on this, although that probably is a topic for another day) – which really didn’t phase us because the other two had it so we viewed it as “normal”. Also right around that time, she developed a severe chest cold that turned to pneumonia. She was on multiple courses of antibiotics, which really didn’t do much, and after a frantic ER visit one night when she was around three months old (every time she would cough, she would projectile vomit, and couldn’t lay flat) – we saw a pediatrician who put her on a dose of Prednisone. Now…I am not knocking what he did because for all I know – we were at the point that nothing else would have worked. All I know is that from there…we were on an endless train of antibiotics, and inhaled, oral and topical steroids.
Fast forward three years…still having mega issues with eczema, chronic pneumonia/croup/bronchitis, constant goopy nose, purple allergic shiners under her eyes, cranky crabby mood, inability to sleep all night (for the first two and a half years of her life, she woke multiple times a night screaming – we’re all pretty tired around here), and failure to grow. She also had what I consider some sensory issues – mostly because I just don’t know what else to call it. She would get really really glazed over and rub her ears, sometimes to the point that she would trip on herself because she was so involved with that. That was worse if she was tired, or around a large group of people.
We kind of stumbled around with our allergist – because isn’t that what you do when your kid has allergies?!? – and had some food allergy testing around age 1 which showed nothing. She was so small though, I don’t know that any different testing would have showed much either. And thus continued the train of meds. I had started to do a little reading about allergies and atopic illness – and read somewhere that food can trigger this. We did “no dairy” for about a year starting at age 1, and then did an “egg, peanut, dairy” elimination diet for a few weeks under the direction of our allergist. This too showed NOTHING. However, as we later found out she was allergic to so many foods we could have never figured it out this way. We began to see a holistic integrative physician about a year and a half ago who diagnosed her with “leaky gut syndrome” as a result of all of the antibiotics, steroids, etc., that she had been on – this killed all the good protective bacteria in her gut and left the door wide open for the “bad guys” who I never knew existed. But they were definitely there, working their magic, and keeping our baby really ill much of the time. The heavily processed diet full of refined sugar that we ate at the time fed this. Think…fire and gasoline. Anyhow, he did some treatment with her that was fairly successful. However, she only was able to remain free of the chest crud if she was on continuous antifungal therapy. She was on this for almost a year. This is very hard on a person’s liver, and I knew that we couldn’t do this forever.
At some point about a year ago, I started reading bits and pieces about a program called “GAPS” (Gut and Psychology Syndrome) through other mom-bloggers who were doing it. I read the book and thought “This is our whole family!!!” I planned and planned and we started and it all flopped. My kids blood sugar got too low, and they were lethargic and vomiting, and everyone was unhappy. It was alot and I had mutiny on my hands. Everyone wanted to quit. And for a family of five to do the Intro portion of the diet – I spent $100 on meat for 5 days. Just meat. And school started. We lasted a week. And we kept on seeking. My doctor suggested that she go gluten-free – which really helped the eczema considerably – at least until she got “glutened” at an IHOP on a weekend trip out of town – so we kept on headed in that direction. We had IgG testing done through our chiropractor, which showed that she was also allergic to dairy, chicken, every nut, rice, pinto beans and I’m pretty sure I’m forgetting something because it all runs together after awhile. Life got harder and harder for her (and our whole family). Shortly after that, my husband and I decided that we would give GAPS another try – but just she and I this time. Who wants their kid to live like that if there’s a possibility for better?
So mid-February 2012, after even more planning and preparing, we started Intro again. Between my husband, my father-in-law and I – we were blessed to be able to keep her home with us for around three weeks. I will admit that we went through it much faster than I would have liked, but it would have been really difficult to have her do it at daycare. Who wants to eat broth and meatballs for snack when the other kids around you are eating “normal kid” food (I do say that in partial jest as I don’t really believe there is such a thing as “kid food”! It’s all what you’re used to!)???
A couple of observations I’d like to make: 1) People say their kids would never eat the food. This is true, but only initially. After three or four stressful days of bribing her to eat with prizes (it took routinely an hour to get three bites in her), something major changed and she totally bought in to the food. Like, eating things like eggs with cooked onions, and mashed avocado – she ate like she was going out to bale hay. Never before would that have happened. She is by far the best eater at the supper table these days…even with things like liver and onions!!! And we did go through the low-carb/vomiting/lethargy for a part of a day. After that, in our case, I decided to give her carrot juice in the morning and a cooked apple at night, which perked her up nicely and stopped the vomiting. 2) She is awesome about knowing what she can and can’t eat. She doesn’t sneak things. My big kids will leave a glass of milk or some crackers laying around, and she knows better than to eat them. She once turned down Oreos from a little friend and told him they weren’t “GAPS legal.” Kids learn fast what makes them sick and what doesn’t.
Great things that we’ve seen:
**The chronic croup/pneumonia/bronchitis is GONE. She hasn’t had so much as a sniffle in around four months (knock on wood!). As is the goopy nose…
**She finally grew!!! It started when we put her on the gluten free diet, but after starting GAPS she became a little brick :-).
**She slept all night…can you say “YAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!”
**The purple allergic shiners went away. I always think those are so indicative of what is going on in the body. Her skin tone also improved dramatically, and she was no longer pasty and pale.
**Her mood improved greatly, as did her level of interactiveness, increased animation and I also think that her speech quality improved. We also didn’t see the glazed over business, or ear rubbing for awhile.
**And her diarrhea went away…
However…as one of my very wise GAPS Facebook friends said the other day…”this is a marathon and not a sprint”. I will admit that I was all about “Point A to Point B” for awhile. And I introduced things that she just wasn’t ready for, in my own hopes for a little more normal for both of us. Her diarrhea came back, and in the past couple of months, she started getting really crabby and angry again, her allergic shiners got a little worse, and she started waking up at night a couple times a week. At that point, she was on full GAPS so it was pretty much impossible to determine what was causing what.
We tried a couple of things that really weren’t all that successful, and after alot of discussion, my wonderful husband agreed with me that she and I would restart Intro together. Except that this time, we started at Stage 4. Within a couple of days, her diarrhea went away, the shiners and her skin tone improved again, she’s sleeping, and her mood has been much better. We both marvel at how much her level of animation has increased in the past couple weeks – and this is the only variable. This time, I figured out that she continues to react to dairy and nuts, so we’re holding those. We’ve had some hang-ups, and sometimes I take a step or two back with her, but we’re moving along.
I will also add – and I would guess that most GAPS families would agree wholeheartedly – her cognition is directly related to what is going on in her gut. If she has diarrhea, she is much more fuzzy and ornery, and I suspect toxic inside. If her poop is normal…she is bright and cheerful and talks your arm off. I think that it has nothing to do with “how she is feeling” – but is more of a reflection of her level of toxicity. We have learned that she has to take detoxification baths with epsom salts daily, or we don’t get to sleep all night. Again…relating back to the level of toxicity. Anyhow, for more on that…read the book. And even though she is three and a half, she continues to take really long naps as she needs alot of rest.
Not every day is great. This week has been TOUGH. A couple of nights ago, we finished up Vacation Bible School, and all the other kids were eating their ice cream afterwards. She went into MegaMeltDownMode right outside the church – and although the day is not over we have not gotten a call yet from Child Protective Services. 🙂 (kidding, kidding) Once she calmed down, we talked about it and she just so badly wanted ice cream like the other kids were having…she said she LOVES ICE CREAM. Anyhow, she does get MY ice cream and it’s danged good…but not what everyone else was having unfortunately for all of us.
My goal is not to psychologically scar my child by “depriving” her and/or making her “different”. I worry a little about what others think about it. Sometimes I forget, but we eat really weird 🙂 anyhow, so she would be different regardless. And “different” is a good thing in my opinion anyhow. And as far as “deprived” – we generally eat whatever treats we want – pizza, ice cream, cookies – I just make different versions of it than the rest of the world eats. There are lots of awesome GAPS bloggers out there for cooking inspiration. Being on Intro makes it tougher, as we are creeping through slower this time, but that is not forever either. My goals from GAPS for her: 1) to have a healthy, vibrant childhood. What she does after that is up to her, but I sure hope some of this sticks. 2) to have her be more “normal” than she could have ever been before – to be able to eat at birthday parties and friends’ houses without getting sick. We will still eat like we eat at home but at least she’ll have a little more freedom. 3) To make life a little easier for all of us. Especially her. Being allergic to most of the food around you is really not fun for anyone. Eating away from home can be downright horrible (although we’ve found a few things along the way that really help – plain Subway salads with no meat or dressing, and Chipotle burrito bowls are generally “safe”) and having multiple food allergies is limiting in a lot of ways.
If your child sounds anything like mine…check out the GAPS Diet. It’s been a life changing experience – tough and wonderful all at once – and I wouldn’t change where we are at for the world.
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